7 Habits That Can Transform You Into Being Fearless

If you were to look up fearless, in the dictionary, you will see that it’s defined as an adjective that means to be without fear; to be bold or brave; intrepid.  When it comes to fearlessness, I find that there are usually two kinds of people.  Those that are perfectly happy following rules and paths that were set by someone else.  They go with the flow in every aspect of their life ensuring that they don’t “rock the boat” in anyway to have a calm, predictable yet fulfilling life.  
The other group of people will flip the boat all the way over in order to find their true happiness even though it’s the “road less traveled” and has unknown results.  
Fear is probably one of the most powerful feelings we possess.  Think about this…What keeps you at a job for 10 years when you knew that you despised it after 2??  It was the fear of not being able to find another job that will actually make you happy while paying the bills.
What keeps people in a longterm relationship despite the fact that they hate coming home because they have to see him or her?  I’ll tell you…it’s the fear that you won’t find anyone else.  You are afraid to be alone, miserable, and sex-less for the rest of your life.
Fear controls so much of what because the fear of the unknown is too much to bear.  Especially if what you have been doing is working.  But the truth is…everything is unknown.  Nothing in life is guaranteed.  Even if you are one that plays by the rules.
Most of my life was spent living in fear.  Sitting in a cubicle at the same job for over 13 years knowing that it would lead to nothing but a steady paycheck.  Afraid to apply for a nicer car than the one that I was driving because I was afraid to be declined by the bank.  Fearful of submitting an application to be a fitness trainer because I was afraid they wouldn’t think I was “fit enough”  (even though I spend hours weekly exercising).  Staying in a unhealthy, miserable relationship because I was too afraid of what would happen after breaking up with him.  Yep, fear controlled every single part of my life.  Until one day, out of the blue, I sat for a long while pondering, “what the hell am I so afraid of?”.  And just like that, I threw fear right out the window and started making moves.
Being fearless doesn’t mean you’re not scared of anything.  It just means that you are putting the fear to the side and doing it anyway.  If you truly want to live the life you’ve always dreamed of?  Why not try?  Hell, I’m still trying to get there!  But this journey is much more fun and exciting that what I had going on before taking the leap.
If you are ready to take a leap into “the fearless life”, take a look at these 7 tips that can help you get there:
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Tip 1: Shake The Haters Off 

Haters will hate and there’s nothing that you can do about it.  You have to learn to not let others criticism of your choices, affect your path.  Remain confident that you will accomplish the goals you’ve set, no matter what others think.  Need help coming up with responses?  Try these: “It’s nice of you to offer advice but I’m good. Thanks for offering!”
“Yes, I’m sure this is what I want to do”
“I’ve done my research and I’m on the path to fixing the issue”
“Thanks for the referral! I’ll be sure to contact him/her if I need help”

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Tip 2: Keep Your Business To Yourself

Learning when to keep your business to yourself can be really hard but really effective.  A new business ideas can be so exciting that you can’t wait to share with others.  But think before you speak.  Unfortunately, telling everyone about your next move will only lead to increasing your fear.  People love giving unsolicited advice.  Keep your new ideas, plans, or goals to yourself until you have gotten to a point where they can see it happening.  Let your actions do the talking.

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Tip 3:  If At First You Don’t Succeed, Dust Yourself Off And Try Again

Trial and error will happen more than you might expect in your new fearless life.Somethings work out the first time and some don’t.  That’s okay.  It isn’t about how many times you fall down.  It is about how many times you get back up.  Overcoming challenges is part of the game.  Learn from it and keep it moving.

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Tip 4:  Remember, you aren’t Beyonce, Chile!

Social media has its benefits and drawbacks, for sure.  Who doesn’t enjoy scrolling through IG pics of Bey shopping at the finest stores and opening successful businesses with her seemingly perfect family in tow.  Remember, everyone is different and we all have different paths.  Comparing yourself to others won’t do anything but hurt in the end.  You will never find your own path.  The only difference between successful people and you is their drive and determination.  YOU are YOU…be confident in that.  Find your own path to follow and let it take you wherever YOU want to go.

just do you
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Tip 5:  There Are No Do-Overs

Life isn’t a dress rehearsal.  As far as we know, its’ one and done.   Make the most of every opportunity that presents itself and say “yes” more than you say no.  You never know what can happen!

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Tip 6:  Remind Yourself, “What’s The Worst That Can Happen?” 

Taking risks for a bigger reward is definitely scary but what’s the worst that can happen?  You may be told, “no” and you may even have to try something else.  Last I checked, no one died from hearing the word “no” or from failing at something.

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Tip 7:  Vision Board

I’m a true believer that if you see it, it will come.  There are things that I have put up on my vision board that seemed so far fetched.  But they have happened.  So get to cutting and pinning, girl!  There is no vision that is too big.

Always remember that confidence is key, set small goals that will lead to bigger ones and don’t look back!  Good luck on your road to fearless living!

Do these tips sound reasonable?  What would you add if anything??  Let me know in the comments…

Stay Fearless 💋

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