It wasn’t until the end of my pregnancy that I started to realize how much I let my days go by aimlessly.
During my pregnancy, I spent so much time worrying about my health, the babies health, and COVID-19. Wondering if I’m gonna have a c-section or not, constantly researching every single symptom and reading tons of stories about pregnancies that ended terribly. Towards the end of my last trimester, I started to realize that I spent so much time focusing on bullshit that I didn’t just enjoy the process. Gaining weight, eating everything, feeling the baby move around, basking in the happiness with my husband etc.
During that time, I began replaying the last few years of my life and noticed that I had been just going through the motions for a while. Helping to take care of my sick dad, doing everything my then fiancé wanted me to do (just because I thought it would make him happy), spending weekends at multiple family events when I really wanted to just stay home and watch a damn movie. It was just a lot of doing everything for everyone else. Not spending time with me and making the day count for me.
Thank goodness those days are long gone. I snapped out of it. I really feel like my son helped me get there and he doesn’t even know it. He put perspective and focus in my life.
Soooo, here are some tips that help me to seize the day and make it count. Hope it helps you…
Work off your own schedule. Not anyone else’s.
If you’re asked to do an activity and you don’t want to do it. Don’t. Only fill up your schedule with things you want to do. Not things others want you to do.
Make it your business to be honest with others about your feelings.
Lying just takes a lot of time. And can hurt a lot of feelings. Save yourself some time and keep it real.
Take a few minutes (if not more) to show gratitude for things in your life that you’re grateful for.
You might wake up in the morning and feel grateful for the sun to shine in your bedroom. Take a moment to soak it in and feel that gratitude. I am a night owl, so each night I find myself staring at my baby and husband; soaking in the love and how grateful I am to be blessed with them. It really just feels good.
Make a daily goal list.
Getting things accomplished can always make you feel like you kicked the days’ ass. So, make a list, check it twice, and knock off as many tasks as you can. It can be as small as watching something you have on DVR to creating a budget.
Don’t let others put all of their bullshit on you.
This is a big one for me! I’m the person everyone calls when they want to talk. But I can’t let their energy transfer to me. I’ve found a way to dodge it. Sometimes I’m straight up by telling them that I don’t want to hear any bullshit. But if you’re not ready to do that, change your tone to sound uninterested and hopefully they catch the hint. Or just say you have to go. Don’t waste your day worrying about someone else’s crap.
Stick by what you decide.
I had a habit of making a decision. I’d back and forth a million times pondering if I made the right decision. Now, I don’t do anything without giving it some thought. After I’ve done that, I make the decision and move forward with it. No use in wasting your day worrying about if you did the right thing. What’s done is done.
Do what puts a smile on your face.
Do something every day that makes you smile. Watching your favorite show, going for a run, eating something sweet…whatever it is…do it! You will never regret it.
What are some of the things you do to make the day count? Let me know in the comments…
Stay Fearless 💋